The Mean Girls actor — who got engaged to the TV host in Nov. 2020 — and his groom celebrated their love in front of their closest friends and family in an inclusive, destination wedding on Saturday at the Unico Riviera Maya Hotel in Mexico.
“When you’re part of the LGBTQ+ fam, not everything in the wedding space is for you yet,” Vaughan tells PEOPLE. “The whole purpose of our wedding is to come together and join the two of us together, join our families together and start a new family.”
“And all that, as we were going through this process, we realized that our wedding is also more than just about us,” Bennett adds. “It’s about the entire community.”
Their friends were heavily involved in the big day, including one of Bennett’s closest pals, YouTuber Brian Tyler Cohen, who officiated their nuptials. The wedding party stuck to the color theme in black tuxes from Express and white tuxes by Robert Stanley Bespoke.
“It’s gender-neutral but everyone looks represented and feels sexy in their own way,” Bennett shares. “So it’s like a new tradition for the community. You don’t have to do dresses and tuxes. Anyone who wants to wear a tux, wear a tux, go for it.”
The newlyweds skipped a typical wedding walk down the aisle. Instead, they chose to meet one another at the altar after walking in from the beach to a song that Vaughan wrote for Bennett at the couple’s engagement.
Each man wrote his own vows and placed a diamond-encrusted Kay Jewelers ring on the others’ hand.
“[It was a] new tradition we created,” Bennett adds while mentioning the rings are now actually for sale in the retailers’ stores. “That’s what we’re all about.”