Gringo cannibals: when immigrants turn on each other

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From the Facebook page of Catherine-Claire Blythe

๐ป๐‘œ๐‘ค ๐‘‘๐‘–๐‘”๐‘–๐‘ก๐‘Ž๐‘™ ๐‘ โ„Ž๐‘Ž๐‘š๐‘’ ๐‘๐‘ฆ๐‘๐‘™๐‘’๐‘ , ๐‘ฃ๐‘–๐‘Ÿ๐‘ก๐‘ข๐‘’ ๐‘ ๐‘–๐‘”๐‘›๐‘Ž๐‘™๐‘–๐‘›๐‘”, ๐‘Ž๐‘›๐‘‘ ๐‘ฅ๐‘’๐‘›๐‘œ๐‘โ„Ž๐‘œ๐‘๐‘–๐‘ ๐‘š๐‘–๐‘š๐‘–๐‘๐‘Ÿ๐‘ฆ ๐‘Ž๐‘Ÿ๐‘’ ๐‘’๐‘Ÿ๐‘œ๐‘‘๐‘–๐‘›๐‘” ๐‘กโ„Ž๐‘’ ๐‘ฃ๐‘’๐‘Ÿ๐‘ฆ ๐‘๐‘œ๐‘š๐‘š๐‘ข๐‘›๐‘–๐‘ก๐‘–๐‘’๐‘  ๐‘ค๐‘’ ๐‘๐‘Ž๐‘š๐‘’ โ„Ž๐‘’๐‘Ÿ๐‘’ ๐‘ก๐‘œ ๐‘๐‘’ ๐‘Ž ๐‘๐‘Ž๐‘Ÿ๐‘ก ๐‘œ๐‘“.

Anti-American and anti-foreign sentiment in Mexico is intensifying. Rising rental prices, tourism pressures, and at least three large anti-American protests have captured both national and international attention.

At the same time, โ€œMoto Manโ€ and โ€œPee-in-the-Park Touristโ€ are making national news, while โ€œThe Barefoot Gringaโ€ is blowing up on local social media. These incidents cross my desk daily as foreigners rush to share, repost, and circulate every clip of โ€œGringos Behaving Badly.โ€

But I have to ask myselfโ€”๐‘คโ„Ž๐‘ฆ? ๐‘Šโ„Ž๐‘Ž๐‘กโ€™๐‘  ๐‘กโ„Ž๐‘’ ๐‘Ÿ๐‘’๐‘Ž๐‘™ ๐‘š๐‘œ๐‘ก๐‘–๐‘ฃ๐‘’ ๐‘๐‘’โ„Ž๐‘–๐‘›๐‘‘ ๐‘ โ„Ž๐‘Ž๐‘Ÿ๐‘–๐‘›๐‘” ๐‘กโ„Ž๐‘–๐‘  ๐‘๐‘œ๐‘›๐‘ก๐‘’๐‘›๐‘ก? ๐ด๐‘›๐‘‘ ๐‘คโ„Ž๐‘Ž๐‘ก ๐‘Ÿ๐‘œ๐‘™๐‘’ ๐‘‘๐‘œ ๐ผ ๐‘๐‘™๐‘Ž๐‘ฆ ๐‘คโ„Ž๐‘’๐‘› ๐ผ ๐‘Ž๐‘๐‘๐‘Ÿ๐‘œ๐‘ฃ๐‘’ ๐‘œ๐‘Ÿ ๐‘‘๐‘’๐‘›๐‘ฆ ๐‘กโ„Ž๐‘’๐‘ ๐‘’ ๐‘๐‘œ๐‘ ๐‘ก๐‘ ?

The photos, videos, or headlines arenโ€™t what disturb me most. Itโ€™s the storm of vile, dehumanizing commentsโ€”the online dogpiling, harassment, and even calls for deportationโ€”coming from immigrants, no less, that make me stop and think about what is happening in our community. And itโ€™s deeply troubling.

Each time a foreigner does something unacceptableโ€”whether itโ€™s โ€œMoto Man,โ€ โ€œPee-in-the-Park Tourist,โ€ or โ€œThe Barefoot Gringaโ€โ€”we donโ€™t just see criticism of the behavior. We see full-on public trials held in the court of Facebook. These posts are filled with hateful language, bullying, and xenophobic rhetoric coming from immigrants, foreigners, and Gringos themselves.

This goes beyond bad mannersโ€”itโ€™s normalizing xenophobic scripts. Itโ€™s copying the same โ€œkick them outโ€ mentality that many of us have witnessedโ€”and despisedโ€”in our own countries of origin.

Condemning bad manners while modeling something far uglier is the definition of the pot calling the kettle black.

If weโ€™re going to condemn rudeness, we canโ€™t respond with hate. Participating in a Facebook witch hunt should be just as embarrassing as putting dirty feet on a restaurant table.

And hereโ€™s whyโ€ฆ

๐–๐žโ€™๐ซ๐ž ๐๐จ๐ซ๐ฆ๐š๐ฅ๐ข๐ณ๐ข๐ง๐  ๐—๐ž๐ง๐จ๐ฉ๐ก๐จ๐›๐ข๐œ ๐’๐œ๐ซ๐ข๐ฉ๐ญ๐ฌ

Right now, xenophobia is rising against ๐˜๐Ž๐”โ€”yes, youโ€”the very foreigners living here.

When you attack other foreigners publicly, you are reinforcing the harmful narrative that foreigners are a problem population to be policed, shamed, and expelled. This behavior is shortsighted, spreads ignorance, and fuels xenophobia.

You donโ€™t gain goodwill or immunity by joining the mobโ€”๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ ๐จ๐ง๐ฅ๐ฒ ๐ฆ๐š๐ค๐ž ๐ญ๐ก๐ž ๐ฆ๐จ๐› ๐ฌ๐ญ๐ซ๐จ๐ง๐ ๐ž๐ซ.

๐“๐ก๐ž ๐๐จ๐ญ ๐‚๐š๐ฅ๐ฅ๐ข๐ง๐  ๐ญ๐ก๐ž ๐Š๐ž๐ญ๐ญ๐ฅ๐ž ๐๐ฅ๐š๐œ๐ค: ๐‡๐ฒ๐ฉ๐จ๐œ๐ซ๐ข๐ฌ๐ฒ ๐ข๐ง ๐€๐œ๐ญ๐ข๐จ๐ง

If we condemn bad manners, how can we justify responding with even worse behaviorโ€”hate speech, bullying, incivility, and vitriol? By trying to shame someone while unleashing full-blown digital lynch mobs, we prove that the pot is calling the kettle black.

This is modeling the very toxicity and disrespect we claim to oppose, while simultaneously sending the message to every other nationality that open season on Gringos is permissible. A literal invite.

Is this really the image we wantโ€”shifting from a few foreigners behaving badly to a ๐ฌ๐š๐ฏ๐š๐ ๐ž ๐ฌ๐œ๐ž๐ง๐ž ๐จ๐Ÿ ๐ ๐ซ๐ข๐ง๐ ๐จ ๐œ๐š๐ง๐ง๐ข๐›๐š๐ฅ๐ฌ ๐ญ๐ž๐š๐ซ๐ข๐ง๐  ๐ข๐ง๐ญ๐จ ๐จ๐ง๐ž ๐จ๐Ÿ ๐ญ๐ก๐ž๐ข๐ซ ๐จ๐ฐ๐ง?

๐†๐ฅ๐š๐ฌ๐ฌ ๐‡๐จ๐ฎ๐ฌ๐ž๐ฌ ๐š๐ง๐ ๐–๐ข๐ญ๐œ๐ก ๐‡๐ฎ๐ง๐ญ๐ฌ

Every one of us has had moments we wouldnโ€™t want blasted across social media for the world to judge. Yet, when someone posts a clip of โ€œMoto Manโ€ or โ€œThe Barefoot Gringa,โ€ the comments quickly turn into digital stoningโ€”doxxing, vulgar insults, deportation chantsโ€”as if one bad moment defines an entire person.

Have we forgotten that these are real peopleโ€”human beings?

If you live in a glass house, consider putting that stone down and extending the grace you hope to receive.

Additionally, we donโ€™t always know the facts: Was Moto Man ticketed? Was the Barefoot Gringa asked to leave? Was the Pee-in-the-Park Tourist arrested?

These public witch hunts disregard the principle of due process. ๐ƒ๐ž๐ฉ๐จ๐ซ๐ญ๐š๐ญ๐ข๐จ๐ง ๐ข๐ฌ ๐ž๐ฑ๐ญ๐ซ๐ž๐ฆ๐ž ๐š๐ง๐ ๐ง๐จ๐ญ ๐š ๐œ๐จ๐ง๐ฌ๐ญ๐ข๐ญ๐ฎ๐ญ๐ข๐จ๐ง๐š๐ฅ ๐ฉ๐ž๐ง๐š๐ฅ๐ญ๐ฒ ๐Ÿ๐จ๐ซ ๐ฆ๐ข๐ง๐จ๐ซ ๐จ๐Ÿ๐Ÿ๐ž๐ง๐ฌ๐ž๐ฌ. On the other hand, many of the online comments violate Mexican law protecting dignity, privacy, and civil rights. You not only risk endangering someoneโ€™s safety, but you may also inadvertently be opening yourself up to legal trouble.

๐๐ฎ๐›๐ฅ๐ข๐œ ๐’๐ก๐š๐ฆ๐ข๐ง๐  ๐๐š๐œ๐ค๐Ÿ๐ข๐ซ๐ž๐ฌ

Thereโ€™s even a proposal on the table to start a local Facebook page dedicated to shaming โ€œEntitled Expats.โ€ But whatโ€™s next? Are we also going to launch a page for โ€œMexicans Behaving Badlyโ€? Where does it end?

And does airing our dirty laundry this way truly make our community better?

Weโ€™ve already seen dangerous cries for โ€œThe Barefoot Gringaโ€™sโ€ name, calls for deportation, and even threats of physical violence against โ€œMoto Man,โ€ along with sweeping claims that โ€œ๐‘“๐‘œ๐‘Ÿ๐‘’๐‘–๐‘”๐‘›๐‘’๐‘Ÿ๐‘  ๐‘ค๐‘œ๐‘ข๐‘™๐‘‘ ๐‘›๐‘’๐‘ฃ๐‘’๐‘Ÿ ๐‘ข๐‘Ÿ๐‘–๐‘›๐‘Ž๐‘ก๐‘’ ๐‘–๐‘› ๐‘๐‘ข๐‘๐‘™๐‘–๐‘ ๐‘–๐‘› ๐‘กโ„Ž๐‘’๐‘–๐‘Ÿ ๐‘๐‘œ๐‘ข๐‘›๐‘ก๐‘Ÿ๐‘ฆ ๐‘œ๐‘“ ๐‘œ๐‘Ÿ๐‘–๐‘”๐‘–๐‘›โ€ or that โ€œ๐‘€๐‘’๐‘ฅ๐‘–๐‘๐‘Ž๐‘›๐‘  ๐‘ค๐‘œ๐‘ข๐‘™๐‘‘ ๐‘›๐‘’๐‘ฃ๐‘’๐‘Ÿ ๐‘Ž๐‘๐‘ก ๐‘กโ„Ž๐‘–๐‘  ๐‘ค๐‘Ž๐‘ฆ.โ€

Of course, thatโ€™s not true.

If you doubt it, just look up the viral videos of Mexicoโ€™s own โ€œ๐‘ณ๐’‚๐’…๐’š๐’” ๐’‚๐’๐’… ๐‘ณ๐’๐’“๐’…๐’”โ€(akin to the โ€œKarensโ€ in the U.S.).

Vilifying outsiders while putting insiders on a pedestal doesnโ€™t make anyone look better. It deepens divisions, creates an โ€œus vs. themโ€ narrative, and fuels resentment.

Bad behavior isnโ€™t a nationality problemโ€”itโ€™s a ๐’‰๐’–๐’Ž๐’‚๐’ problem.

Before we launch a full-blown shame campaign, consider that study after study shows that shaming rarely changes behavior. Itโ€™s ineffective, often counterproductive, and more likely to escalate anger, defensiveness, and conflict.

๐๐š๐ฅ๐š๐ง๐œ๐ž ๐Œ๐š๐ญ๐ญ๐ž๐ซ๐ฌ

๐€๐ฅ๐ ๐จ๐ซ๐ข๐ญ๐ก๐ฆ๐ข๐œ ๐€๐ฆ๐ฉ๐ฅ๐ข๐Ÿ๐ข๐œ๐š๐ญ๐ข๐จ๐ง: ๐€ ๐’๐ž๐ฅ๐Ÿ-๐ˆ๐ง๐Ÿ๐ฅ๐ข๐œ๐ญ๐ž๐ ๐๐‘ ๐ƒ๐ข๐ฌ๐š๐ฌ๐ญ๐ž๐ซ

Every share, angry comment, or viral post trains social media algorithms to amplify โ€œforeigners behaving badlyโ€ content. This creates a manufactured perception that foreigners are a problematic group, which bleeds into real-world treatment and fuels resentment.

๐๐ซ๐จ๐ฉ๐จ๐ซ๐ญ๐ข๐จ๐ง๐š๐ฅ ๐‘๐ž๐š๐œ๐ญ๐ข๐จ๐ง๐ฌ

By spotlighting lesser acts of disrespect and wrongdoings, then amplifying them, we overshadow far graver issues that deserve our attention. In no world should these incidents dominate the narrative over tragedies like the man arrested for walking down the street with a severed head or the 82-year-old immigrant struck by a car and killed, or the massive floods devastating entire areas.

Where is the outrage for these stories? Where are the thousands of comments, the collective grief, the urgent calls to action for stories that profoundly impact our community?

By fixating on smaller slights, we dilute the urgency of addressing critical issues that shape lives and futures.

๐–๐ก๐š๐ญ ๐˜๐จ๐ฎ ๐’๐จ๐ฐ, ๐˜๐จ๐ฎ ๐‘๐ž๐š๐ฉ

Chasing clickbait and sensationalism at the expense of someoneโ€™s health and well-being isnโ€™t community consciousnessโ€”itโ€™s exploitation.

Instead of amplifying the missteps of a few, ask yourself: ๐‘ฏ๐’๐’˜ ๐’‚๐’“๐’† ๐’š๐’๐’– ๐’‰๐’†๐’๐’‘๐’Š๐’๐’ˆ ๐’„๐’“๐’†๐’‚๐’•๐’† ๐’‚ ๐’”๐’‚๐’‡๐’†๐’“, ๐’Ž๐’๐’“๐’† ๐’˜๐’†๐’๐’„๐’๐’Ž๐’Š๐’๐’ˆ ๐‘ด๐’†๐’™๐’Š๐’„๐’ ๐’‡๐’๐’“ ๐’‡๐’๐’“๐’†๐’Š๐’ˆ๐’๐’†๐’“๐’”? Because the seeds you plant today shape the harvest you face tomorrow.

๐•๐ข๐ซ๐ญ๐ฎ๐ž ๐’๐ข๐ ๐ง๐š๐ฅ๐ข๐ง๐  ๐ˆ๐ฌ๐งโ€™๐ญ ๐‹๐ž๐š๐๐ž๐ซ๐ฌ๐ก๐ข๐ฉ

Joining the dogpile doesnโ€™t make anyone the โ€œgoodโ€ expat or the voice of the people.

True leadership means educating instead of shaming. De-escalating instead of inflaming. Leading by example instead of grandstanding.

Itโ€™s easy to gain likes for outrage. It takes character to foster solutions and encourage respect across cultures.

๐‚๐จ๐ฆ๐ฆ๐ฎ๐ง๐ข๐ญ๐ฒ ๐ข๐ฌ ๐๐จ๐ญ ๐š ๐๐ฅ๐จ๐จ๐๐ฌ๐ฉ๐จ๐ซ๐ญ

Itโ€™s tempting to think that justice comes from the crowdโ€”that if enough people pile on, the offender will feel bad enough to change. But community isnโ€™t a gladiator ring. Real change doesnโ€™t come from humiliation and indignity; it comes from dialogue, education, and connection.

We must resist the urge to turn our neighbors into spectacles. That urge, though natural in the age of clicks and shares, doesnโ€™t reflect our best selves. And it certainly doesnโ€™t reflect the community most of us came here hoping to find or build.

The online pile-ons donโ€™t just hurt the people in the videosโ€”they hurt all of us. They damage the social fabric weโ€™re trying to strengthen. They make us afraid of one another. They breed suspicion instead of solidarity. And ultimately, they make it harder to have real conversations about the very real issues we do need to addressโ€”like gentrification, cultural respect, public safety, and community norms.

๐…๐ข๐ง๐š๐ฅ ๐“๐ก๐จ๐ฎ๐ ๐ก๐ญ: ๐๐ž ๐ญ๐ก๐ž ๐‚๐จ๐ฆ๐ฆ๐ฎ๐ง๐ข๐ญ๐ฒ ๐˜๐จ๐ฎ ๐–๐š๐ง๐ญ ๐ญ๐จ ๐’๐ž๐ž

Do we want a respectful, thriving communityโ€”or do we just want to feel morally superior?

Because the two are rarely the same.

If our true goal is a respectful and integrated Lakeside community, then we need to start acting like it. That means upholding standards of decencyโ€”for everyone. That includes how we behave online, how we talk about each other, and how we model our values, especially when things go wrong.

Call out bad behavior, yesโ€”but do it responsibly. Report lawbreaking to the proper authorities. Set community guidelines with input from locals and immigrants alike. Organize events, offer cultural orientations, or partner with local leaders to promote shared norms and mutual respect.

But pleaseโ€”๐’”๐’•๐’๐’‘ ๐’Ž๐’‚๐’Œ๐’Š๐’๐’ˆ ๐’ƒ๐’–๐’๐’๐’š๐’Š๐’๐’ˆ ๐’๐’–๐’“ ๐’‘๐’†๐’“๐’”๐’๐’๐’‚๐’ ๐’ƒ๐’“๐’‚๐’๐’….

There is no virtue in cruelty. No moral high ground in harassment. And no community is worth living in that thrives on mob justice.

We can create a Lakeside thatโ€™s known for kindness, accountability, and cultural humilityโ€”or we can keep throwing stones in glass houses and wonder why the community feels so fractured.

Itโ€™s up to each of us.

Source: Catherine-Claire Blythe Facebook

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