From the Facebook page of Catherine-Claire Blythe
๐ป๐๐ค ๐๐๐๐๐ก๐๐ ๐ โ๐๐๐ ๐๐ฆ๐๐๐๐ , ๐ฃ๐๐๐ก๐ข๐ ๐ ๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐, ๐๐๐ ๐ฅ๐๐๐๐โ๐๐๐๐ ๐๐๐๐๐๐๐ฆ ๐๐๐ ๐๐๐๐๐๐๐ ๐กโ๐ ๐ฃ๐๐๐ฆ ๐๐๐๐๐ข๐๐๐ก๐๐๐ ๐ค๐ ๐๐๐๐ โ๐๐๐ ๐ก๐ ๐๐ ๐ ๐๐๐๐ก ๐๐.
Anti-American and anti-foreign sentiment in Mexico is intensifying. Rising rental prices, tourism pressures, and at least three large anti-American protests have captured both national and international attention.
At the same time, โMoto Manโ and โPee-in-the-Park Touristโ are making national news, while โThe Barefoot Gringaโ is blowing up on local social media. These incidents cross my desk daily as foreigners rush to share, repost, and circulate every clip of โGringos Behaving Badly.โ
But I have to ask myselfโ๐คโ๐ฆ? ๐โ๐๐กโ๐ ๐กโ๐ ๐๐๐๐ ๐๐๐ก๐๐ฃ๐ ๐๐โ๐๐๐ ๐ โ๐๐๐๐๐ ๐กโ๐๐ ๐๐๐๐ก๐๐๐ก? ๐ด๐๐ ๐คโ๐๐ก ๐๐๐๐ ๐๐ ๐ผ ๐๐๐๐ฆ ๐คโ๐๐ ๐ผ ๐๐๐๐๐๐ฃ๐ ๐๐ ๐๐๐๐ฆ ๐กโ๐๐ ๐ ๐๐๐ ๐ก๐ ?
The photos, videos, or headlines arenโt what disturb me most. Itโs the storm of vile, dehumanizing commentsโthe online dogpiling, harassment, and even calls for deportationโcoming from immigrants, no less, that make me stop and think about what is happening in our community. And itโs deeply troubling.
Each time a foreigner does something unacceptableโwhether itโs โMoto Man,โ โPee-in-the-Park Tourist,โ or โThe Barefoot Gringaโโwe donโt just see criticism of the behavior. We see full-on public trials held in the court of Facebook. These posts are filled with hateful language, bullying, and xenophobic rhetoric coming from immigrants, foreigners, and Gringos themselves.
This goes beyond bad mannersโitโs normalizing xenophobic scripts. Itโs copying the same โkick them outโ mentality that many of us have witnessedโand despisedโin our own countries of origin.
Condemning bad manners while modeling something far uglier is the definition of the pot calling the kettle black.
If weโre going to condemn rudeness, we canโt respond with hate. Participating in a Facebook witch hunt should be just as embarrassing as putting dirty feet on a restaurant table.
And hereโs whyโฆ
๐๐โ๐ซ๐ ๐๐จ๐ซ๐ฆ๐๐ฅ๐ข๐ณ๐ข๐ง๐ ๐๐๐ง๐จ๐ฉ๐ก๐จ๐๐ข๐ ๐๐๐ซ๐ข๐ฉ๐ญ๐ฌ
Right now, xenophobia is rising against ๐๐๐โyes, youโthe very foreigners living here.
When you attack other foreigners publicly, you are reinforcing the harmful narrative that foreigners are a problem population to be policed, shamed, and expelled. This behavior is shortsighted, spreads ignorance, and fuels xenophobia.
You donโt gain goodwill or immunity by joining the mobโ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ ๐จ๐ง๐ฅ๐ฒ ๐ฆ๐๐ค๐ ๐ญ๐ก๐ ๐ฆ๐จ๐ ๐ฌ๐ญ๐ซ๐จ๐ง๐ ๐๐ซ.
๐๐ก๐ ๐๐จ๐ญ ๐๐๐ฅ๐ฅ๐ข๐ง๐ ๐ญ๐ก๐ ๐๐๐ญ๐ญ๐ฅ๐ ๐๐ฅ๐๐๐ค: ๐๐ฒ๐ฉ๐จ๐๐ซ๐ข๐ฌ๐ฒ ๐ข๐ง ๐๐๐ญ๐ข๐จ๐ง
If we condemn bad manners, how can we justify responding with even worse behaviorโhate speech, bullying, incivility, and vitriol? By trying to shame someone while unleashing full-blown digital lynch mobs, we prove that the pot is calling the kettle black.
This is modeling the very toxicity and disrespect we claim to oppose, while simultaneously sending the message to every other nationality that open season on Gringos is permissible. A literal invite.
Is this really the image we wantโshifting from a few foreigners behaving badly to a ๐ฌ๐๐ฏ๐๐ ๐ ๐ฌ๐๐๐ง๐ ๐จ๐ ๐ ๐ซ๐ข๐ง๐ ๐จ ๐๐๐ง๐ง๐ข๐๐๐ฅ๐ฌ ๐ญ๐๐๐ซ๐ข๐ง๐ ๐ข๐ง๐ญ๐จ ๐จ๐ง๐ ๐จ๐ ๐ญ๐ก๐๐ข๐ซ ๐จ๐ฐ๐ง?
๐๐ฅ๐๐ฌ๐ฌ ๐๐จ๐ฎ๐ฌ๐๐ฌ ๐๐ง๐ ๐๐ข๐ญ๐๐ก ๐๐ฎ๐ง๐ญ๐ฌ
Every one of us has had moments we wouldnโt want blasted across social media for the world to judge. Yet, when someone posts a clip of โMoto Manโ or โThe Barefoot Gringa,โ the comments quickly turn into digital stoningโdoxxing, vulgar insults, deportation chantsโas if one bad moment defines an entire person.
Have we forgotten that these are real peopleโhuman beings?
If you live in a glass house, consider putting that stone down and extending the grace you hope to receive.
Additionally, we donโt always know the facts: Was Moto Man ticketed? Was the Barefoot Gringa asked to leave? Was the Pee-in-the-Park Tourist arrested?
These public witch hunts disregard the principle of due process. ๐๐๐ฉ๐จ๐ซ๐ญ๐๐ญ๐ข๐จ๐ง ๐ข๐ฌ ๐๐ฑ๐ญ๐ซ๐๐ฆ๐ ๐๐ง๐ ๐ง๐จ๐ญ ๐ ๐๐จ๐ง๐ฌ๐ญ๐ข๐ญ๐ฎ๐ญ๐ข๐จ๐ง๐๐ฅ ๐ฉ๐๐ง๐๐ฅ๐ญ๐ฒ ๐๐จ๐ซ ๐ฆ๐ข๐ง๐จ๐ซ ๐จ๐๐๐๐ง๐ฌ๐๐ฌ. On the other hand, many of the online comments violate Mexican law protecting dignity, privacy, and civil rights. You not only risk endangering someoneโs safety, but you may also inadvertently be opening yourself up to legal trouble.
๐๐ฎ๐๐ฅ๐ข๐ ๐๐ก๐๐ฆ๐ข๐ง๐ ๐๐๐๐ค๐๐ข๐ซ๐๐ฌ
Thereโs even a proposal on the table to start a local Facebook page dedicated to shaming โEntitled Expats.โ But whatโs next? Are we also going to launch a page for โMexicans Behaving Badlyโ? Where does it end?
And does airing our dirty laundry this way truly make our community better?
Weโve already seen dangerous cries for โThe Barefoot Gringaโsโ name, calls for deportation, and even threats of physical violence against โMoto Man,โ along with sweeping claims that โ๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐ ๐ค๐๐ข๐๐ ๐๐๐ฃ๐๐ ๐ข๐๐๐๐๐ก๐ ๐๐ ๐๐ข๐๐๐๐ ๐๐ ๐กโ๐๐๐ ๐๐๐ข๐๐ก๐๐ฆ ๐๐ ๐๐๐๐๐๐โ or that โ๐๐๐ฅ๐๐๐๐๐ ๐ค๐๐ข๐๐ ๐๐๐ฃ๐๐ ๐๐๐ก ๐กโ๐๐ ๐ค๐๐ฆ.โ
Of course, thatโs not true.
If you doubt it, just look up the viral videos of Mexicoโs own โ๐ณ๐๐ ๐๐ ๐๐๐ ๐ณ๐๐๐ ๐โ(akin to the โKarensโ in the U.S.).
Vilifying outsiders while putting insiders on a pedestal doesnโt make anyone look better. It deepens divisions, creates an โus vs. themโ narrative, and fuels resentment.
Bad behavior isnโt a nationality problemโitโs a ๐๐๐๐๐ problem.
Before we launch a full-blown shame campaign, consider that study after study shows that shaming rarely changes behavior. Itโs ineffective, often counterproductive, and more likely to escalate anger, defensiveness, and conflict.
๐๐๐ฅ๐๐ง๐๐ ๐๐๐ญ๐ญ๐๐ซ๐ฌ
๐๐ฅ๐ ๐จ๐ซ๐ข๐ญ๐ก๐ฆ๐ข๐ ๐๐ฆ๐ฉ๐ฅ๐ข๐๐ข๐๐๐ญ๐ข๐จ๐ง: ๐ ๐๐๐ฅ๐-๐๐ง๐๐ฅ๐ข๐๐ญ๐๐ ๐๐ ๐๐ข๐ฌ๐๐ฌ๐ญ๐๐ซ
Every share, angry comment, or viral post trains social media algorithms to amplify โforeigners behaving badlyโ content. This creates a manufactured perception that foreigners are a problematic group, which bleeds into real-world treatment and fuels resentment.
๐๐ซ๐จ๐ฉ๐จ๐ซ๐ญ๐ข๐จ๐ง๐๐ฅ ๐๐๐๐๐ญ๐ข๐จ๐ง๐ฌ
By spotlighting lesser acts of disrespect and wrongdoings, then amplifying them, we overshadow far graver issues that deserve our attention. In no world should these incidents dominate the narrative over tragedies like the man arrested for walking down the street with a severed head or the 82-year-old immigrant struck by a car and killed, or the massive floods devastating entire areas.
Where is the outrage for these stories? Where are the thousands of comments, the collective grief, the urgent calls to action for stories that profoundly impact our community?
By fixating on smaller slights, we dilute the urgency of addressing critical issues that shape lives and futures.
๐๐ก๐๐ญ ๐๐จ๐ฎ ๐๐จ๐ฐ, ๐๐จ๐ฎ ๐๐๐๐ฉ
Chasing clickbait and sensationalism at the expense of someoneโs health and well-being isnโt community consciousnessโitโs exploitation.
Instead of amplifying the missteps of a few, ask yourself: ๐ฏ๐๐ ๐๐๐ ๐๐๐ ๐๐๐๐๐๐๐ ๐๐๐๐๐๐ ๐ ๐๐๐๐๐, ๐๐๐๐ ๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐ ๐ด๐๐๐๐๐ ๐๐๐ ๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐? Because the seeds you plant today shape the harvest you face tomorrow.
๐๐ข๐ซ๐ญ๐ฎ๐ ๐๐ข๐ ๐ง๐๐ฅ๐ข๐ง๐ ๐๐ฌ๐งโ๐ญ ๐๐๐๐๐๐ซ๐ฌ๐ก๐ข๐ฉ
Joining the dogpile doesnโt make anyone the โgoodโ expat or the voice of the people.
True leadership means educating instead of shaming. De-escalating instead of inflaming. Leading by example instead of grandstanding.
Itโs easy to gain likes for outrage. It takes character to foster solutions and encourage respect across cultures.
๐๐จ๐ฆ๐ฆ๐ฎ๐ง๐ข๐ญ๐ฒ ๐ข๐ฌ ๐๐จ๐ญ ๐ ๐๐ฅ๐จ๐จ๐๐ฌ๐ฉ๐จ๐ซ๐ญ
Itโs tempting to think that justice comes from the crowdโthat if enough people pile on, the offender will feel bad enough to change. But community isnโt a gladiator ring. Real change doesnโt come from humiliation and indignity; it comes from dialogue, education, and connection.
We must resist the urge to turn our neighbors into spectacles. That urge, though natural in the age of clicks and shares, doesnโt reflect our best selves. And it certainly doesnโt reflect the community most of us came here hoping to find or build.
The online pile-ons donโt just hurt the people in the videosโthey hurt all of us. They damage the social fabric weโre trying to strengthen. They make us afraid of one another. They breed suspicion instead of solidarity. And ultimately, they make it harder to have real conversations about the very real issues we do need to addressโlike gentrification, cultural respect, public safety, and community norms.
๐ ๐ข๐ง๐๐ฅ ๐๐ก๐จ๐ฎ๐ ๐ก๐ญ: ๐๐ ๐ญ๐ก๐ ๐๐จ๐ฆ๐ฆ๐ฎ๐ง๐ข๐ญ๐ฒ ๐๐จ๐ฎ ๐๐๐ง๐ญ ๐ญ๐จ ๐๐๐
Do we want a respectful, thriving communityโor do we just want to feel morally superior?
Because the two are rarely the same.
If our true goal is a respectful and integrated Lakeside community, then we need to start acting like it. That means upholding standards of decencyโfor everyone. That includes how we behave online, how we talk about each other, and how we model our values, especially when things go wrong.
Call out bad behavior, yesโbut do it responsibly. Report lawbreaking to the proper authorities. Set community guidelines with input from locals and immigrants alike. Organize events, offer cultural orientations, or partner with local leaders to promote shared norms and mutual respect.
But pleaseโ๐๐๐๐ ๐๐๐๐๐๐ ๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐ ๐๐๐ ๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐ ๐๐๐๐๐ .
There is no virtue in cruelty. No moral high ground in harassment. And no community is worth living in that thrives on mob justice.
We can create a Lakeside thatโs known for kindness, accountability, and cultural humilityโor we can keep throwing stones in glass houses and wonder why the community feels so fractured.
Itโs up to each of us.
Source: Catherine-Claire Blythe Facebook